Establishing a new beginning with a refreshed outlook can help you in your quest to release the past and embrace forgiveness. Holding onto feelings of anger, hurt, resentment and sadness however, can just lead to burn out and getting caught up in a negative rut.
I’ve recently found myself in a position where someone has hurt me and rather than processing these feelings mentioned, I said to myself “nah, I haven’t got time for these emotions, I just need to get on with my life and work.” But then my loved ones around me started to pick up on my short-fused personality for I was in a constate state of tiredness. My mind was working extra hard to keep these emotions away taking away from my energy… and so my life and work became a slug of a chore.
The only true way to release these negative emotions is through forgiveness annnnnddddddd forgiveness really… is the path to spirituality. Infact, I’m going to say it’s at the top of the spirituality metre.
We can’t forgive unless we’ve got everything below it on the metre under control and if we can forgive, we are really spiritual beings because it’s the hardest task of all. But how?
The following methods were passed down to me from a very wise and spiritual lady I met whilst travelling:
1.The first step of forgiveness is to just admit that we aren’t ready to forgive right now. That’s the biggest compassion of all that we can give ourselves. We generally aren’t ready to forgive because we have worked so hard to be where we are now, get ourselves happy again and be the new person that we are now. Forgiveness feels like letting all that hard work undo itself.
I’m here to let you know that you don’t have to let all your boundaries go to let them back into your heart and you don’t have to let go of all the pain that they inflicted on you.
2. The second step is knowing that you don’t have to forgive someone’s personality, but you can forgive their soul, which in turn, will allow you to move on with your life and be happy (Deep down, you can’t be fully happy unless you can forgive).
When I set the intention to forgive, I sit in meditation for days (sometimes months), and I sent the person love and more love to everybody in their immediate life. When I don’t feel ready to communicate with that person on the surface, this method instead, allows their soul to come close to my heart again, where I can communicate with it at a soulful level. That communication is in the form of prayers and sending them light. I like to think of it as sending them a yes to their soul, but a no to their behaviour.
3. The third and last step is to then keep your fence up and implement boundaries in place. Make a mental note of how you want the relationship to be going forward. Do you want any future contact? Perhaps you only want contact through writing? Know that to forgive, that person doesn’t ever need to know that you nurture this deep deep love for their soul internally, nor do they need to know externally.
The power of forgiveness adds to the cultivation of positive emotions. By practicing and encouraging forgiveness as a daily habit it opens a clear path towards personal growth, emotional fulfilment and a positive outlook when thinking about the next step; letting go. We’ve all been hurt by another person at some time or another — we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt. And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over, and it’s just this that gives us a hard time letting go.
It’s time to get present darling! The past is over.
What are you grateful for in your life right now? What’s happening in your life right now that you can see a positive in? What joy can you find in what is happening right now? If you catch yourself thinking about the past, gently and compassionately bring your focus back to the present. As you do so,try focusing on your breathing. Imagine each breath going out is the pain and the past, being released from your body and mind. And imagine each breath coming in is peace, entering you and filling you up. Release the pain and the past. Let peace enter your life. And go forward, thinking no longer of the past, but of peace and the present.